You see a woman standing on the beach obviously in pain. She's been hurt. Perhaps someone who used to be a big part of her life has hurt her and moved on. She is in a bad place. Sometimes she feels as if she can't go on without him. She has lost hope for the future. All she does is replay what good things they did when they were together and maybe sometimes she remembers the bad but the good overshadows. She has lost all hope of seeing him again (and deep down inside maybe she doesn't want to see him again) and her spirit is drowning. She is fighting with letting go and not letting go.
She goes through her day mostly inside because outside there are people laughing and living life. She doesn't want her life anymore. She wants theirs.
There are couples holding hands and she avoids them. Meaningful friends try to cheer her up but there's nothing they can do. She's on a self-destructive journey fighting her spirit who needs to move on and her self-pride who is trying to tell her she's better than this and that she has a lot to give to the world.
If I were to stand on that beach with her, I would sit her down in the sand, hold her hand and tell her that love always come with a price. Nothing is forever unless it's meant to be forever. But, what she had with her soul mate was meant to be because it was something she had to learn in order to be on her right path. Soul mates do not masquerade. They either are or they aren't and if he wasn't her soul mate in the first place, she wouldn't be in so much pain. Soul mates are all around us and they all enter your life to teach you something or you teach them. When it doesn't work out, we question whether they were our soul mate in the first place; but indeed they are. Are is the operative word here. Eventually time will heal the pain, but it's the memories that are keeping her from healing at a faster rate.
We are all on soul journeys. Whatever life you lead right now, it's merely all about paying bills, taking care of children or getting up and doing the 9-5, but there's much, much more to it than that. Looking inside ourselves to find out what makes us happy is your ticket to finding that self-pride again. Like the woman on the beach, she's trying to rediscover herself again. My suggestion for her would be to do something she used to do before the relationship started that made her happy and self-fulfilled. No memories of being with him will enter because he wasn't in her life at that time. That's who she was before him and that's what will help her to heal.
Become that girl again and everything will fall into place.
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